Updated: Apr 8
In this article, a mother provides 60 life lessons she hopes to teach her child.
I love my son so infinitely much, more than words could ever express, as I like to think all of you parents who do read this can relate to your own child(ren). Yet, if it is words that we can relate to, sayings that we can read and inspire us and motivate us to live life to the fullest; than I would love to share the words that has changed me and my life for the better. I dedicate this post to my precious, sweet son who has been the greatest student, teacher and inspiration to me. Being a mother has changed me in ways that I never thought was possible. Not only is it like any other love I have ever experienced, it makes me want to share every word of wisdom and knowledge to my son that I have learn(ed) and practice(d). I find life to be so much easier when I have some guidance along my way and so here is:
What I hope to teach my child as he grows (and it stay with him and he understands it and applies it throughout his life):
Always be yourself. Always.
Be true to yourself too.
If you fall, pick yourself back up.
Believe in yourself – you can achieve and accomplish anything (as long as you put action into you) because you can Kreate What U Want.
See everything as a blessing (even the ‘hurdles’ and ‘obstacles’ in life have something to teach us) because in each moment is a chance for us to learn and grow.
Be kind: Be kind to yourself. Be kind to others and everything, especially nature too.
Love yourself. You are worthy. You are valuable. You are beautiful.
There are ups and downs in life, all we can do is find and focus on the good (there IS good in everything) …so sit back and enjoy the ride.
Do what you love, love what you do.
Treat others the way you want to be treated.
Laugh. Laugh as much as you can and as hard as you can.
Always make time for YOU. Alone time every-so-often and/or everyday for meditation is necessary and very good for your well-being.
Have fun and play. Be silly. Be weird. Keep that inner child alive… you are never too old or too young to do what you are drawn to. “We’re all a little weird. And life is a little weird. And when we find someone whose weirdness is compatible with ours, we join up with them and fall into mutually satisfying weirdness—and call it love—true love.” -Robert Fulghum
Continue to be curious and asks questions. Keep asking away! Question Everything.
If it doesn’t feel good or right to you, it probably isn’t.
Listen to your body and your heart ~ It knows better than anyone else.
Be aware, conscious and observant in each moment.
Do what you are drawn to - Always.
Explore life – all of it.
Keep on telling your Self: I CAN & I WILL, I WILL & I CAN!!! Because you really can!
Travel. See the world every chance you get. The places feel are calling you to see, are meant for you to see. GO!
Always tell the truth and be honest. Truth always has a way of making itself known. Plus living an honest, truthful life- it helps with living a more simple life too.
Always remember to say please and thank you. Manners really do play a big role in one’s life (and the world), along with….
Your Attitude matters. The way you behave matters too. You are in charge of your behavior, feelings, thoughts, emotions, your words and what you speak, and the way you react (or not), the way you respond and treat yourself and another- be in control of you which leads to:
Make your own choices. Do not let anyone else make your life choices. I am a BIG fan of what William James said: “When you have to make a choice and don’t make it, that is in itself a choice.”
Give your best. Always. With everything you do.
Never give up. Finish what you start.
Act on your creativity and inspiration. Do art. Make music. Create. Color. Draw. Paint. Sew. Knit. Dance. Play an instrument. Play a sport. Whatever it may be… DO IT!! Keep exploring what you are drawn to!
Be sure to eat your veggies and fruits and of course:
Drink lots of water and stay hydrated.
It is none of your business what others think about you. As human beings, we tend to judge and can be critical – do your best to block, cancel or delete hurtful words and not let what others say about you affect you in any way. I really like what Eleanor Roosevelt had to say: “No one can make you feel inferior without your consent.”
Express your feelings ~ expressing your heart through art (and making music) is one way out of so many ways we can express our feelings. We are all made up of feelings and emotions – it is healthy to be aware of how you are feeling and it is OK to feel how you do, however you do. Apologize if you feel the need to, if you are happy, feel happy. If you are mad, it is OK to feel and be mad or angry. Learn to express anger in a healthful manner so that you do not regret it or hurt yourself or others in some way. Believe in yourself and you can Kreate What U Want. “Every child is an artist. The problem is how to remain an artist once we grow up.” -Pablo Picasso
Handle all situations when in a calm manner. If you need time to calm down, take the time to calm down. Do not make any life-alternating decisions when upset or not in a balanced-state-of-mind.
Take good care of your physical body too. Exercise. Brush your teeth and brush your hair. Shower. Get fresh air.
Not too much sugar… its always nice to treat ourselves every-so-often but do your best to not overload on sugar. This fits right in with the whole taking good care of your body and well-being.
Sometimes we win, sometimes we don’t and both are OK – accept and move on and remember to be humble along the way.
Be open to learning. Do something outside your norm. Keep meeting and greeting new people and continue to be adventurous and explore an infinite amount different places. By doing this, new experiences and opportunities arise and everyone we meet and cross paths with is a chance to learn and excel, I believe we just have to:
Listen. Even in our own silence. Be silent and Listen.
Appreciate nature and everything (and everyone) around you. See the beauty everywhere you go (even in ugly situations, there is beauty, find it and focus on it).
Stand firm with what you believe in – someone may or may not disagree with you and YOUr beliefs (what feels good and right to you) – and so stand firm for what YOU believe in, you are the only one living YOUr life and so:
Be confident. You are capable of anything. You are a powerful being who can do, be and achieve what you want.
Get your proper rest.
Read books. A lot of them. They’ve helped me expand my thinking in drastic ways and took me to many fun places.
Be patient. Things take time. All is a process (literally). Life is much better being in-joyed so don’t worry, just be happy because:
It is always OK. Everything always has a way of working itself out, it truly does! Everything IS always OK. Wait it out.
Remember to thank each day and be done with it. And in the morning when you wake, do your best to think positive and have feel-good vibes (all throughout your day too). This allows for positive outcomes and results.
It is on you to create and maintain your own happiness.
It is not about the amount of friends you have. It is about having a special connection and bond with that person(s) throughout our lives. Ask yourself, does this person want best for me? Does this person uplift me? If yes, they are worth keeping around. Life is meant to be shared with others. Appreciate the kind people and friendships in your life.
Sharing is caring.
How do you know if you do not try?!
Choose peace and love every time.
Everything in moderation. Balance.
Forgive, release and let go. It is healthy for our own well-being, so that we do not have too much ‘baggage’ to carry around with us.
Soak up the sun! I’ve always felt so refreshed and renewed after spending some time in the sun at least 15 mins each days, its a good way to get your Vitamin D too!
If you are scared or afraid to do something- that means you absolutely need to do it to overcome that fear!!! (True story. I learned this from your father, what an amazing, inspiring teacher, partner and father he is!)
Be grateful. Especially for the little things…
Say “yes” more then no. (Your father also taught me this- he especially believed in always saying “yes” to attending events and invites he would receive, it is something he encouraged me to do as well and it has benefited me in SO many ways.)
Accept. Accept yourself just the way you are. Accept others just they way they are. Accept what IS. Be free of judgement.
Be conscious and aware of the amount of media/technology/video games you intake. (Just another Friendly Reminder: Moderation is key).
Hugs! May you give and receive many, millions and trillions of hugs in your lifetime…. “A hug a day keeps the loneliness away.” (This is something my mother always said to me growing up and I absolutely agree with her). HUGS ARE A MUST!
OK, so I know I have wrote a lot of life lessons but HEY! – That’s me just being a mom. I am pretty sure I could write many many more but maybe I’ll leave them for another post. I hope you enjoyed this article in some way and if you have any other life lessons you would like to share, please do share in the comment box. All feedback, insight and thoughts are welcomed … I’d love to hear from you!
Believe in yourself and you can Kreate What U Want.